A Great Learning

A Great Learning from America

Life in America is totally different when compare to other countries like India. My journey in America is very good and has learned a lot of things in each and every step of my life. One thing I have learned that every countries have their pros and cons. But the important point is that how you are using your potential in order to overcome from the entire hurdle. When I came to America first time everything was very new to me, people life, their way of thinking, talking, way of living etc was totally different from the India. In every country you will find some good people as well as bad people. But one thing I like about this country is that here people are ready to help you and you can fulfill all your desire. But the important thing is that you should behave very nicely. The reason for writing this blog is that just wanted to make aware the things to people that whatever they think or perceive about America life that is totally different from their perception or thinking. Wherever you are, practical life is totally different when compare to dream life. People who live in India or any other country usually think life in America is very easy going, people don’t take too much pain and also don’t have any problem and enjoy their life. But seeing American life from far is totally different when compare to actually facing that life. Life in America especially for new people is very difficult as they have to adjust in new culture, they have to do a lot of hard work in order to live here, and they really have to go through the lots of challenges in order to have happy life. People who live in India think that, people who live in America only enjoy their life and they don’t have any kind of tension or pressure and also earn lots of money. But earning money here is same as earning money in India. The only difference is that there people earn money in Rupees and here people earn money in Dollars and also they spend money in dollars. Here the value of 1 dollar is very important because in one dollar you can eat your 1 day meal. People think that the person who live in America earn lots of money, that is true but their most earning money spent on mortgage, education, insurance like medical, car, etc. So it’s hardly possible for them to save the money. Though the life in America is very busy but still you have a plenty of things to do in order to develop yourself as well as you will gain lots of knowledge from each and every people. I give my own example, when I use to live in India; I always use to think life in America is very good and easy going and have lots of money. But ones I came here, I came to know reality about the real life, life here is easy going but defiantly we have to do lots of hard work, have to do our work honestly, have to be competitive in order to get edge from others people. My experience in America is very good and I am still learning a lot from this country.

Important Strategy of Life- Don’t Compare with Others

Important Strategy of Life- Don’t Compare with Others

In our culture a lot of times people advice or tell us to compare ourselves with others. "You should be like your father, your mother, your friends, your siblings etc". You can win; the others aren’t as good as you, you must be the best of your class, you should do the things as others are doing etc., and this is not always the best way of thinking. There are many reasons to change this way of thinking and begin to compare ourselves only with ourselves. This is the way it should be, and in this blog I will discuss some of the most important reasons for this.

The first reason to avoid comparing yourself with others is that there will be always someone better than you. It doesn’t matter in which aspect, but it is always true. Therefore, you could feel inferior to others and maybe without a real reason. For example, you can be an incredible good person or a good negotiator or very intelligent or smart and the best of your generation, and this can make you feel incredibly good, but if someday someone is better than you are, you could feel sad or feel bad although you are still the same incredible person that you were before.

The second reason to include this kind of comparison is that you will always find someone worse or not better than you, but as opposed to the first reason, this can make you feel better than the others, and this feeling can turn into a horrible pride or over confident. For example, if you are the second best student of your class or in the office, and one day the very best student or employee leaves the school or office, you will then be the best one although you are still only as good as you were before.

A third reason to stop comparing ourselves is that the one who compares him/herself with others is judging, and this doesn’t help us develop as human beings. Nobody knows the internal reality of the other; nobody knows his/her story and his/her most deep intentions, and when we judge it’s harder to accept the others.

The last but most important reason to avoid comparing ourselves with others is that when we do, we try to copy them, to do the same things, and to act and think like them. The problem with this is that if we copy someone, we will never know who we really are and what we really want, and then we will never grow in life.

For all these reasons and because we all are unique from others, we should not compare ourselves with others, only with ourselves. So, if we use this pattern or the important strategy of life we will not feel less or more than others; we will not try to make others look bad or yourself feel bad; we will not judge so much; and we will accept ourselves as we really are. In other words, we will live happier. Therefore we should always try to compare with ourselves in order to improve each and every stage of life and we are the better judge of our self and no one can improve us, only we are the person who can improve ourselves for the short or longer term benefits by developing our personnel and professional development.